Late Black Friday Deal on A Course In Chaos

oh my gadddd 50% off A Course in Chaos! yeeee

I never posted this here on Black Friday, so I decided to let my little wordpress Tornados know about my 6 week course that I host for the brilliant yet distracted.

You may not know, but I have a book coming out called Glitter In The Carpet Syndrome, which is about my story of how I conquered ADHD, distraction and self-destruction as a wild, eccentric, social 20-something.

The book is based on what I teach in a 6 week course called A Course in Chaos which helps you get your sh*t together in 6 weeks so that you can move forward in all of your goals. And if anyone is qualified to teach you this, it would be me: a 27 year old ridiculously random, energetic, professional organizer with ADHD.

You’ll learn about the time I went to jail because of my own disorganization and self-destruction and made friends with some prostitutes in my cell, giving relationship advice and way too much personal information. Oops.

You’ll learn how I pulled it together from rock bottom to having my own business and the mistakes I made along the way.

And you’ll learn how I stopped the cycle of thrive then survive, thrive then survive, thrive then survive then rock bottom then “someone help me”.

I will teach you how to clear chaos and distraction that will clear a path right to completing your goals.

I love helping people get their sh*t together. And what I’ve realized is that a lot of our physical clutter, our chronic lateness, our lack of funds, our late bills all have to do with stuff we are refusing to deal with on the inside too. It’s like a gigantic reflection being held up and we refuse to look in the mirror.  We’ll get you all straightened out.

PLUS I have a ton of tricks to maintain ADD and ADHD so, not that you are “Cured” but so that you can still harness the creativity and randomness that ADD gives you without going into self-destruction or downward spiral.

This also includes one on one calls and group phone coaching so you aren’t just isolated online the entire time.

Since it’s Black Friday weekend, I offered 50% off the course which is 6 weeks and includes admission to our gigantic event in late January in Los Angeles (if you can’t attend, you can attend another one later in the year).

Go here to grab it with the promo code BLACKFRIDAY code is only available for 24 hours from now.

LETS KEEP THIS MOMENTUM GOING! We shall finish 2014 off so strong that 2015 only has room for extreme success!

Every Pristine House Has A Secret Hoard Drawer

I must admit. I enjoy a good rummage through a pile of shit. We all have one of these. Some of us have nothing BUT these. It’s like a secret rebellion against everything calm and collected and structured and pristine in our homes and offices. When the floors are spotless and the dishes are away and the filing cabinets are perfect, somewhere, someone has a secret drawer filled with gum, a pencil, 4 condoms, a rusty razor blade, a chewed nipple from a baby bottle when there are no kids in the house, q-tips, half a granola bar, business cards you couldn’t match to a face if your destroyed liver depended on it, a sock, a mini notebook filled with 3 pages of hopes and dreams, someone’s baby tooth with a cavity in it, and coffee stained magazines you were going to use to cut out for your vision board.

Where’s your secret little hoarder spot? I know you have one. If you say you don’t you’re lying about weird shit.

Cluttered Drawer

Easter’s Done. Here’s How To Get Motivated To Get Off Your

Poor Pete.


Yesterday, you were full of brunch and candy and mimosas and possibly the gospel, incense staining your hair- but today…

Today you and I are going to get serious about getting organized.

Serious about getting your sh*t together.

Serious about organizing your diet. Your morning routine. Your work. Your goals. Your emotions. Your body. Your office. Your home. And that terrible garage.

We’re going to do this together, and Im going to push you.  Because I used to be a hot mess. And I know what it takes to get it together without compromising creativity or freedom- in fact you’ll be accumulating more.

Who’s ready?

All of my little tornados are going to calm the natural disaster that are their lives.  I’ll be posting here, but the motivation that will light a fire under your ass I’ll be sending via email each week.  It’s guaranteed to be the push you were looking for.

So cocky, Monica Fay- how can we be so sure?

Because this is pretty much what I do. It’s me. I’ve been an extreme motivator with an entirely sickening amount of energy and sunny disposition. And I’m about to imprint it allll up on ya so you can achieve any goal you’ve ever lost the fire for.

Lets. Do. This.
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See you soon. Leave a comment if you’re IN. Tell me why you need a change.

Let’s keep this momentum going!

Monica Fay


Let’s leave the chaos behind. Lets. Get. Activated.

5 Steps To Follow Through And Actually Reach Your Biggest Goals

I’ve accomplished some really tough sh*t. I’ve also been an epic quitter.

And what I’ve realized is, no matter how big or small your goal is, no matter how motivated you are, no matter what tools, time, or “accountability partners” are available to you, if you don’t have the commitment to getting to the end result, nothing will get you there.

But isn’t that what we’re all searching for? How to STAY COMMITTED?

That’s the hard part, the task we are hoping to achieve isn’t THAT difficult if we really think about it.  There’s so much information on HOW to accomplish something- weight loss, writing a book, running a marathon, making a million dollars-  but all the information in the world doesn’t put that unwavering determination into place.

After feeling for many years that my life was a series of unfinished dreams, things I started and never actually completed, I knew enough was enough.  I was tired of explaining to people who were excited about my ideas that I had shared with them that I had put that plan on the “back burner” or that it was “coming along”, knowing that I hadn’t worked on it in months.  The worst was telling people that I was, yet again, “starting fresh”.

Starting fresh. I hate hearing that. Most of the time, we don’t need to “start fresh”.  We need to KEEP GOING.

What some of us do in our goal seeking is make a mistake, quit (or just do it here and there), and then feel really bad about it and vow to start over.


When you screw up, do NOT go back to the beginning.  That’s like driving to a friend’s house for the first time and every time you make a wrong turn, you just drive all the way back home so that you can start over fresh.  Get back on the correct freeway and KEEP GOING!

Here are the 5 Steps I use to achieve all of my goals (like the time I ran two 26.2 mile marathons  two weeks apart from each other and fainted in the middle of the second and had to be carried into an ambulance by 4 hot Marines.)

1. The Clear End Result

What, exactly are you going to accomplish?  Set that down. That very, very clear result you desire.  Do not make it unclear, it must be VERY specific.

This is an example of unclear: I want to lose weight.    Here is clear:  I want to fit into a size 4, I want to weigh 140.

Unclear: I want to travel more.   Clear: I want to go to Spain in May 2014.

Unclear: I want to get out of debt.   Clear:  I want all of my credit cards to have a zero balance and my credit score to be 740.

2. Work Backwards.

Most people want to run at their goal from the start line. Well, when I was running my marathon, even though I hadn’t run the course yet, there were markers directing me where to go next, how far I’ve gone and what I’ve accomplished.  There was also a course map provided to give me an idea of the elevation I would hit, the hills ahead of me, and bathroom and water stations.

Why don’t we do this for business? And for weight loss?  And for wealth goals?

Starting with the end in mind, plot backwards.  What is the one thing that has to happen immediately before you reach your goal before it happens? What has to happen for THAT last step to happen?  What “mile markers” are there for you along the way to your goal that tell you that you’ve made progress?   WHat will it take to reach each of those indicators?

When you have a clear map of how to get there (from the end point), you end up right where you are now: at the start. But this time, you know where to go.

3. The Routine

Commit to a schedule.  Hey, you don’t skip meals very often do you? I mean, maybe you have a bad day and forgot to bring lunch to work on the same day that you were running out and couldn’t grab breakfast. But you’re right back at it the next day, like clockwork, eating your weird little tuna sandwich and coconut water.

“That’s silly Monica, we need food consistently to survive, to have brain power, to have energy.”

Well, why is it so important to feed your body if you’re going to starve your goals?

Give your dreams the DAILY nourishment they need to survive, have power and energy to be accomplished.

Every day, without fault,  you should be doing something that moves you forward. It should feel WEIRD to not feed your goal on an off day. You should feel starving when you miss a day.

4. The Mantra

The one thing that keeps me going each day to reach a goal is my mantra.  I usually pick 3 words or a sentence.  When I am running, I say a phrase over and over in my head (and it eventually becomes real words, I know people on the street think I’m talking to myself) .  I say something like, “You can do this, run more, keep running. You can do this, you can do this. Just to the tree. Just to the tree. You can run to that tree.”  Over and over and over, I obsessively fill my head with encouraging chatter, the same variations of sentences over and over and over.  And it pushes me.  Then when I get to the tree, I don’t want to stop there. I then make more dialogue in my head to drown out the fatigue, the “I’m fat”,  the “ok I think I went far enough for today” chatter.  “Go, go, go, you’re fast today.  Keep running, keep running, look how close we are. Just to the stop sign, just to the stop sign. Hello stop sign, just to the light pole just to the light pole”.    I find a rhythm and it becomes addictive and almost euphoric.

5.  The Heart

Use your tears to give you a reason to keep going.  The depression. The hurt. The anger.  Did you really feel this hurt just to give up NOW? Really?

Did you work this hard this past week restricting yourself of food or social media or buying things just to give it all up??  When it gets tough to keep going and you want to break down, think to yourself, I am not going to quit because I’m crying. I’m going to cry to keep going. The pain is the point that means you are ALMOST clear of the addiction to a passive lifestyle.   The pain is the end of your old habits physically being transformed into new, amazing behavior, which will get you that goal.

Let’s Keep This Momentum Going.

Come hang out with me on Facebook so I can motivate the hell out of you to get organized and get going.


The Container Store and Home Goods Gift Card Giveaway!


Hi my little Tornados!  I’m doing a gift card contest for your choice of my two favorite stores! Just follow the directions by liking the facebook page and share the pic! 

The Coolest Daily To-Do List Planner Ever :)

So! Exciting news!

I’ve created a daily to-do list, organizer, daily planner, whatevahhh to keep you organized! It is a combination of some of the best organizing techniques I’ve come across for myself and it is bright and fun to use- it even has a hydration tracker! I added the hydration tracker because your daily water intake is ESSENTIAL to concentration levels and keeping your ishhh together.

You can download it for free OR if you love having a notepad to write on like I do because somehow handwriting things just makes your thoughts come together better, grab the notepad!

If you did plan on buying it, I have a coupon code for ya that is only good for about a week because it’s a new thing and I just want you to have all the snazz immediately!

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OH SNAP! We’re about to get ORGANIZED and PUMPED! and HYDRATED!


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Struggling as an Entrepreneur, Actor, Singer, or Model? Here’s Why You’re Overwhelmed:


My client *Nina yesterday started pacing back and forth.

“I just feel really anxious right now. I just feel kind of upset!” she said, exasperated, as she wore circles in the floor going from the kitchen, to the office, then back to the kitchen. “I just didn’t realize how much stuff I had or how bad my disorganization and clutter is!”

I said to her calmly, as I sat with a pile of disks fanning away from me like a ballerina tutu made of CDs instead of tulle, “That is normal.  We don’t realize the burden we’ve accumulated because we put it in boxes and folders and closets because it looks presentable and manageable, but all we’ve really done is found a way to store and not deal.”

What she was going through is completely normal.   She’s not a hoarder- but 20 minutes into our Chaos session, she felt like she was one.

Why? Because I made her face all of her sh*t.  I made her take it all out and go through every bit of it.  And she had a mini panic attack.

That’s normal. That will happen, should happen, and there’s something amazing that happens after you go through it.

But here’s the truth for anyone who is an actor, singer, song writer, model, entrepreneur, etc in LA:

You are overwhelmed because you have too much shit (even if it is “neat”) and you’ve made it literally impossible for your career to move forward until it is taken care of.

We were in her tiny washroom which had been converted to her office/music studio. It was the size of a small apartment bathroom.  She had a closet, a desk, a chair and small table.

Inside the typically deep shelved, non-functional closet that apartment renters in LA know all too well about (seriously, who designed these terrible closets across the entire city???) , Nina had a massive amount of office supplies, 3 ring binders for organizing taxes and business info, bins of wires for her electronics and music devices, keepsakes, hundreds of CDs for her singing demo and other musical influences, a dream board that was curling and faded on the wall, inspirational quotes cut out of a magazine and pinned to the wall, extra pieces of furniture that had been pushed to random corners that took up prime real estate where she should have had open space, pictures, and on top of all that, dust.

This is not the house of a hoarder.  This is the room of an artistic, talented, beautiful, intelligent 20-something fantastic woman who, in the heart of LA, is trying to simultaneously grow a business and jumpstart her music career.

Which is pretty effing awesome, if you ask me. Yet, typical.

Very. Very. Typical. For LA, at least.

In LA, a heavy percent of the population is an aspiring something who has another job on the side. For Nina in particular, she was doing ALL THREE! Job, startup AND music.  And she was trying her best to live a healthy and organic lifestyle.

Talk about pressure.

Here’s where the breakdown happens. It isn’t because she isn’t talented, isn’t creative enough, doesn’t have a good enough business idea or even because she doesn’t have the proper connections.

The issue is her power and effectiveness over her environment.  She doesn’t have it. But she desperately wants it and needs it.  To-do lists make you feel like you have it.  Binders and plastic bins make you physically feel like you are achieving it. But those are temporary escapes.

Even though things are (somewhat) neatly tucked away, she is literally drowning in the disconnect between clutter, organizing finances, organizing her career, and keeping papers and other items tucked away that are old, unnecessary and yet another thing added to the always amassing, yet vague, “To-Do List” in the back of the brain.

The problem is common and it is debilitating to anyone who is trying to start a business, move a business forward, increase their income, have a thriving artistic career or feeling at peace.  There is always a feeling that something isn’t completed, something needs to be done, something has to be taken care of.  And this incompleteness lasts for years! YEARS, on very small, seemingly simple tasks.  Like installing a new water filter that has already been purchased and is still in the box.

To battle this and try to be successful at what the rest of the population considers “getting a lucky break”  would overwhelm even the toughest cookie.

As the session moved forward and Nina and I, together, battled everything in only her studio/office closet, the panic started to subside and I could see her energy level raise.

First, she hesitated to even throw away a broken straw purse that she had intended to fix the strap of for years. She put it to the side.

Then, as we rooted through her demo cds, boxes of antiquated and outdated headshots, notebooks full of old song ideas, taxes, and motivational self-help books, Nina left the room with a stained ottoman to dump in the trash. When she came back, she picked up the purse. “I don’t need it do I? Do you think this is cute?”

“Honestly it looks like the filler from the bottom of an Easter basket.”

She looked at me, slightly offended at my bluntness, then laughed. “You’re right. I’m being ridiculous. I don’t know why I was so hellbent on holding on. It was just going to stay tucked away neatly for another 3 years. I don’t even know where to go to fix it, and I don’t even have the interest in looking up a place on the internet.”

She tossed it.

Then, it was like a weight had been lifted. Nina started tackling the box of headshots, then the cabinet full of boxes for electronics, you know, the ones you keep for years in case they ever break.

She started moving faster and with ease, as if she knew exactly what she was doing, where things should go, what was necessary to let go of.

We haven’t finished yet- but at the end of our Chaos session, Nina and I have a plan in progress.

Each thing her life that she is devoted to, music and her organic greens business, will have a section of flawless detail.

Paperwork, forms, schedules, supplies, marketing material, tracking of income, tracking of advertising, taxes.

All of it, purged, simplified, and each with it’s own neat area and system. After acknowledging everything that has been tucked away, we threw away the unnecessary, put back the essentials, then formed an organizational plan for her sales, her music marketing, her income tracking and her resources.

Because you can’t reach your potential of success when the clutter overwhelms your creative.

How creative could you possibly be on a canvas that has already been painted and trashed, compared to a blank white canvas?

Stay tuned– Next article is the 6 Steps to take to Battle Overwhelm and Get It Done Once and For ALL!    and How to Be a Success in LA

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How To Easily Fold Pesky Fitted Sheets Fast

Well, I wouldn’t be a very great professional organizer if I didn’t know a trick to one of the worst household tasks EVER!

You’re welcome for saving you from ever getting assaulted and embarrassed by a fitted sheet again.

If you like my stuff and want more quirky little tips, tricks, motivation or videos, be a good little Tornado and send me your email below. Let’s get rowdy.

How I Eliminated Chaos To Become Successful

I knew I had hit an all-time low as they put the cuffs on me and searched my car.

They drove me exactly one and a half blocks to the precinct and I was photographed, inked, patted down and stripped of my bra.

I was arrested in front of my boyfriend.

Not for stealing. Not for assault.

I had a warrant.  For a failure to appear.

A failure to appear for a ticket I got driving an entire year before.

An easy thing to take care of. On the date on the ticket, you simply go into the court at the appropriate time and listen to how much of a fine the judge will give you.

Imagine that. I turned something small, something annoying and rather un-chaotic, into an EVENT.

We all do it- we create events, even negative events.

We call our destructive chaos many things:  absent-minded, busy, ADD, forgetful, careless,  bad with money, broke, someone else’s fault, oh and my favorite: normal.

Destructive chaos is none of these things.

Chaos is something we create, whether we have ADD, we miss a court date, or we just think all the tumult in our lives is what everyone else is experiencing, too.

Here’s the clue though; most happy people aren’t living in destructive chaos.  They are living in normal, manageable chaos.

What is the difference? Destructive chaos leads you into a downward spiral and a never ending cycle of unpaid bills, burned bridges, struggling with weight loss, feeling unappreciated at work, being late, missing opportunities and never reaching goals and dreams.

Normal chaos is 5 kids running around while you finish off the tail end of brownie making which they’ve abandoned after they got to lick the spoon.  Normal chaos is a family member passing away and having to notify work, book a ticket home and find a place to stay while coping with loss.

The difference is that one is managed by taking care of what needs to be done and the other is caused by letting things get out of control and

The only reason we think our destructive chaos is normal is because it can seem like a good story or we are just plain addicted to the upset of a perfectly calm life. We feel like something needs to HAPPEN. There has to be an EVENT!

Living a life without destructive chaos is not boring. It is not you sitting around wasting the best years of your 20s and 30s, forgoing the miniskirt or the 3 too many martinis. It’s not swearing off all assholes- because we need these things. We need a couple assholes to put what a good man is into perspective, we need a couple blurred nights and hang overs to put consumption limits in order, we need that one outfit that tells us that it is only right for a night out, not around the boyfriend’s parents.

On the other hand, we need that one good man to wipe away all the memories of the assholes which could become destructive chaos, we need that night out with the girls where we only had one drink and still had the time of our lives to let us know we don’t have to be shit shows to get attention or be liked, we need that selection in our wardrobe that makes us feel powerful without showing an inch too much yet turns heads anywhere we go.

Chaos, misplaced, becomes our excuse for destructive patterns.

The habitually late will always find themselves in the midst of some “issue”, for instance.

I found myself in handcuffs because I created a bunch of chaos around resolving a ticket. Something a simple appearance would have resolved.

Something a little saved money would have resolved.

Saved money, which would have been there, if I had written a budget, followed it, and had not just shut my eyes to my spending and limits.

It was when I was sitting there in my cell, head down, tears pooling in my eyes, that I realized that this arrest, these money issues, this body, this

Luckily, we are not doomed to live in destructive chaos.

On the other side of this is a life of power and respect for ourselves, our time, our money and our health.  A life you are in control of, a life where you don’t have the constant drama and setbacks keeping you from achieving the life you want.

It can be difficult to wrap your mind around at first because essentially we are talking about changing our entire behavior, which can be confused with “that’s just who I am”.  But, if “who I am” worked, we wouldn’t be treading water emotionally, financially and physically, would we?

Luckily, I already endured the broken path to figuring this out. Even though I’ll be blogging about it, enter your email here to get more motivation and info on how you can change your life the way I did.  

It took a couple traumatic experiences for me to get myself to where I am, hopefully you can get there without all the extra drama it took my stubborn self to get through first! Learn from me. Trust me. You don’t want to continue down my former path!

The #1 Roadblock To Staying Organized

Organizing affects everything and everyone- every career, every relationship, every household.

When you have a disorganized house, a disorganized schedule, or don’t have a routine at work, life becomes difficult not just for yourself, but for the people surrounding you in your life.

So, you know that already, don’t you?  Everyone knows, a messy house creates clutter in the brain, which actually means your brain was cluttered first and manifested from your thoughts. It’s a never ending cycle.

So you tried to do something about it.

You probably went online and read up on “how to get organized” or went out and bought a book from Peter Walsh or Julie Morgenstern on how to increase productivity or looked up what papers you’re allowed to toss safely if the government should ever, so generously, give you an auditing surprise party.

You probably went on Pinterest and looked up creative DIY solutions to organizing your closet or kitchen.

You may have even looked up free budget tracker websites to get organized with your spending habits.

You also tried to create to-do lists and big calendars with multi-colored markers outlining different important tasks, you tried to get through unopened boxes you never went through when you moved into your apartment 2 years ago, you attempted to open the garage door and wade through the miscellaneous things that had no physical place in your home, so they got pushed outside.

And you probably started off super motivated, too. Didn’t you?

It feels good at first, writing the to-do list, taking things out of a box, THROWING THINGS IN A BAG TO GET RID OF, being on time, planning in advance.

But then, after a couple hours, or for the extreme go-getters, a couple days, … it gets exhausting.

It gets overwhelming.

All of a sudden, panic sets in because there is just too much around you to take care of, too many tasks built up on the list, you don’t know what to start on first and then you find an overdue bill you forgot about.

It seemed so easy at first, putting your life back on track, keeping in that way. The plan was there! The resources were there! The shiny books with toothy smiling celebrity professional organizers had fun ideas and some prolific words!

So, what happened?

I’ll tell you what happened.

The #1 Roadblock to staying organized is FINISHING.

Sounds simple and obvious, doesn’t it?

Oh, Monica Fay, really? Finishing is your answer?


Finishing the task, no matter how small or how big, is crucial to becoming organized.

A major problem I used to have, and still work every day at overcoming, is the ability to complete the tasks and goals I’ve set for myself- to honor my commitment to being organized and living a life that flows effortlessly.

Stubborn as I am, I didn’t discover this roadblock until AFTER I became a professional organizer.  At the time, I was still a live-in nanny, and editor for a local magazine, trying to finish up college (late as usual) and trying to get old credit card bills from when I was 18 under control.

As ambitious as I was, as much as I wanted to live this life as a responsible adult who could live easily and happily, I realized I was fighting the same battle every single day and never completely taking care of one task to its finishing point!  I would make new task lists every day, I would tackle portions of my room, I would spend time writing for the magazine or encouraging my staff of writers, but at the end of the day, there was no satisfaction that anything had really actually happened! It was pure stagnation of life.

At one point, when I was 30 minutes late to pick up the youngest child from school, after I had just worked an organizing session for a client I was also late for, AND my phone shut off because I hadn’t allocated the funds for the bill so I didn’t have a means to call any of these people to let them also prepare for disruptions in THEIR hard-earned life flow, I realized that my disorganization, my failure and inability to FINISH, not only made my life very difficult, it forced others to feel the effect of my actions!

That is when I realized that FINISHING is the biggest problem to living a life of ease and success.

So many times, we create the lists, map out the schedule, attack boxes or stacks of mail, we buy the bins, baskets and wall hanging devices, answer emails, but fail to accomplish the daunting task of perfecting flow and organization.

This is because we do not give importance to FINISHING. It doesn’t matter how many things you need to do, how many boxes to go through, how much paper is on the counter, how junky your closet is, how hard to reach someone is.

You cannot be organized and at the same time have half completed goals/tasks.

When you finish something, a small bit as it may seem to be, you can successfully move on to the next increment of organization.

Being organized is the act of several small repetitive systems put in place to make life flow, and each system has steps that have to be completed in order to move forward and work.

When I finally got this concept, and I mean REALLY got it, that is when I was able to finally share this authentically with my clients and teach them through my own mistakes in an easier to understand and easier to accomplish method, and it changed the nature of the relationship I had with these people completely.

I also realized, who would be more effective at getting you to make a permanent change? Someone who made the mistakes before and has come to correct them? Or someone who has always lived a certain way and never felt the sting of failure or has never known the struggle of how to rise from the bottom?